Friday, December 20, 2019

Friends





by Ricky Chelette, Executive Director


"Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm." Prov 13:20

Friends are so important in our lives. "A recent Harvard study concluded that having solid friendships in our life even helps promote brain health.
Friends help us deal with stress, make better lifestyle choices that keep us strong, and allow us to rebound from health issues and disease more quickly. Friendship is equally important to our mental health. One study even suggested spending time with positive friends actually changes our outlook for the better. "

But how do we find good friends? Here are some basic characteristics to look for: 1. Are they honest? 2. Do they bring out the best in you? 3. Do they push you towards Jesus? 4. Do they encourage and/or challenge you? 5. Can you laugh with them? 

Friends have an incredible influence on our lives. Because we often spend significant time with them, their attitudes, language, gestures, and even interest can greatly influence us. If they are wise, we can become wiser. However, if they are foolish, they can easily influence us to make poor choices. 1 Cor. 15:33 (NIV) warns that "bad company corrupts good character." We need to be careful who is influencing our heart, mind, and soul. 

Christians need to have friends who are not believers. However, it is even more critical that our closest, most influential friends, be those who are like-minded, growing in Christ, and seeking to follow Jesus wholeheartedly. 

But if we are going to find good friends we also have to be the kind of friend we desire. Far too often, we seek to get from others what we are unwilling to be ourselves. We can't approach friendships as a way of simply receiving what we need. We have to be willing to invest in the lives of others, sacrifice time and energy for them, and stick with them through the difficulties that life will bring. 

Take a moment and read the story of Jonathan and David (1 Sam. 18). Some want to make their friendship something more than it was. But as we realize the context of their eastern relationship - a cultural reality that was much more expressively intimate than that of western cultures - we see two who become brothers, who genuinely cared for the good of the other, and were willing to sacrifice for the other. Their friendship is a beautiful picture of the kind of love Jesus had for us when He laid down His life for us (Jn. 15:13). What kind of friend are you? How might you be a better friend to others?

Tuesday, November 26, 2019

Chicken Sandwiches, LGBTQ+, and Our Hope

By Ricky Chelette


I rarely address issues that are breaking in the news. But, the recent announcement of Chick-Fil-A's withdrawal of support for the Salvation Army and the Fellowship of Christian Athletes signals one more momentary win for the forces of darkness against the forces of light.  Once again, pressure from the pro-LGBTQ+ community, media, and secular worldview has influenced a company to deviate from their strong support of Christian organizations and agencies to a compromised position that is more acceptable to the loudest voices in the culture. 

At first glance, this could be discouraging, and in some ways it is, but even more discouraging are the countless churches who have also chosen to compromise truth for convenience and public acceptance.  These churches have abandoned the foundational truth of God's sovereign design for humanity as male and female, for lesser expressions of personal privilege that align with whatever feelings we are having at the moment. Most often, these compromises of truth seek to communicate the grander motive of being "move loving," but in fact, they are just the opposite. It is only in knowing the truth that anyone is genuinely free.  Lies enslave and steal hope. Truth brings life and empowers hope. 

If we are unwilling to uphold biblical truth, we are complicit in blessing all forms of idolatry, self-aggrandizement, and heresy. We abandon the Creator and His reign in our world, and we assign to His creatures (we humans) the ability to create ourselves in our likeness, desires, and pleasures. In the mix of it all, God becomes a silly old soul to ignore rather than a sovereign Lord to obey. 

I love Chick-Fil-A. I love the company, their bold proclamation of biblical principles in their corporate founding, and their delicious food. I was among the thousands of individuals who went to Chick-Fil-A on the day they were to be boycotted by the pro-LGBTQ+ crowd. I felt as though they were one of the few privately-owned, mega-companies who were willing to stand strong for their faith in the face of opposition and misrepresented claims. 

But I love the power of the gospel even more. I love how the work of Christ on this earth, on the cross, and in the resurrection ensures the reconciliation of man and the transformation of his/her heart and life if he/she believes. I love, even more, that the power of the gospel enables humanity to be all he/she is created to be. I love that the gospel communicates that we are not accidents, mistakes, blunders of a deity, or merely bodies to be recreated, but intentional creations, fearfully and wonderfully made to reflect the image and glory of our Creator God in this world.  I love that in spite of the discouragement such corporate and institutional decisions can have on those seeking to follow the way of God, believers can still have hope. 

Dan Cathy, CEO of Chic-Fil-A, made this statement that started his company’s controversary. It was a bold statement of truth and compassion which rallied many who believed the Word as he did: ““I think we are inviting God’s judgment on our nation when we shake our fist at him and say, ‘We know better than you as to what constitutes a marriage.’ And I pray God’s mercy on our generation that has such a prideful, arrogant attitude to think that we have the audacity to define what marriage is about.”


Our hope does not rest on the approval and cheers of men, corporate entities, LGBTQ+ advocates/allies/friends, or the culture.  Our hope is in the Bible upon which we choose to entrust our lives and our souls. Our hope is the grace given for now, because of the cross, and the future grace that empowers us to remain until the end.  Our hope rests in the promise that The King is coming to make all things new, to bring heaven to earth, and to judge the living and the dead.  Our hope has a name, and His name is Jesus.

Monday, November 11, 2019

Unsatisfying Fruit



by Marsha

Fruit that Leaves you Unsatisfied

The prevailing assumption today is that people are much smarter and more advanced now than all previous generations.  Yes, technology has advanced to an amazing degree, and medicine has made great strides in finding out how our bodies work and how to keep them healthy, but does that automatically mean we are smarter?  Some would even contend that we are better, or more virtuous than our ancestors.

Despite the advances mentioned above, I think a case can be made that we are virtually the same as all generations that have gone before us, and that we keep falling for the same temptations that tripped them up.  It’s easy to run through the stories in the Bible of characters who failed, sometimes spectacularly, and think that we would not have made the same mistakes.  If we slow down and look carefully, we will see that we are just the same.

The story of Adam and Eve is familiar to us, but perhaps too familiar to have much impact on how we think about ourselves.  Try to imagine what it would be like to live in Eden.  It’s almost beyond our comprehension to think of a place with jaw-dropping beauty, a perfect climate, no biting insects, no dangerous reptiles or predators of any kind, no thorns or brambles – just peace and beauty as far as the eye could see.  We don’t know his exact age, but Adam was handsome, young, healthy and strong…no allergies, no vision problems or malfunctions in any of his systems.  He had the companionship of all the creatures in the world, and none of them wanted to hurt him.  Despite this abundance, God saw that he needed a being like, yet unlike, himself to make paradise complete.

God created Eve to fill that void.  Like Adam, she was created in perfect health, was beautiful and possessed qualities that complimented Adam’s.  We cannot even imagine a relationship of such perfect harmony.  They enjoyed each other’s company, worked together harmoniously and never argued.  Wouldn’t you give anything to live in a world like this?  All they had was one simple rule.  Out of all of creation, they had only one limitation – don’t eat of the fruit of the tree in the middle of the garden.  How much simpler could it be?

Here is where we begin to see how much we are like these first two humans.  All of us have at least ONE thing in our lives to which we know God has said “no.”  It may be a relationship that is forbidden, or a heart attitude like pride, laziness, selfishness or greed.  It may be an activity that is not inherently bad, like movies or the internet, but we have taken it in the wrong direction, a direction that we know does not honor God.  Why couldn’t Adam and Eve have just directed their attention to the abundance of everything else around them that was NOT off-limits?  Why can’t we do the same?  It seems that the forbidden things call loudly to us, sometimes in every waking moment.  What drives us to focus so much on the things we can’t do or can’t have?

At least part of the reason for our focus on the forbidden is that we start to believe lies about ourselves and God.  We convince ourselves that if we just had that thing (for argument’s sake, we’ll assume there is only one forbidden thing we desire), our lives would be so much better, or perhaps even perfect.  We fantasize about how possessing this “thing” would enrich our experience.  The thing/person/relationship appears to be a neutral entity and we cannot imagine why God would deny us this innocent enjoyment.  Remember the original limitation?  How could a simple fruit be a bad thing?  We never expect that there will be difficulties if we get our heart’s desire because we wrongly assume that our fantasies about the future are accurate.

Then we begin to build a case against a God who would prevent us from this harmless “happiness” that is just outside of our reach.  Surely God doesn’t understand us or know the deepest parts of our hearts, or He would change his mind.  Perhaps He understands how much we want this wonderful thing but doesn’t care?  He is either clueless at best or unfeeling and remote from our pain at worst.  Who would want to obey or love a God like that?  We tend to forget that Jesus came specifically to experience the human condition with all its hurts and temptations.  He does understand and is the one we should run to.  He was the only one who has ever successfully focused His affections on God instead of His desires.

As we build our case against honoring God’s “no,” we tell ourselves that since we want something so benign, we are justified in ignoring God’s command.  The consequences won’t be that bad.  Maybe God won’t even notice, just like we assume He hasn’t noticed or listened to our pleas for this thing.  If He’s not powerful enough to give us what we want, maybe He’s not powerful enough to follow through with consequences either.  Maybe He’s lying to us about the severity of the consequences because we have already questioned His motives and His reliability.

The escape God has provided us from this trap is to focus on the blessings of our relationship with Him, made possible through our relationship with Jesus.  The joy of walking “in the cool of the day” (Genesis 3) with Him is more satisfying and more lasting than the brief taste of a fruit that soon becomes bitter.    If we train our eyes to look to Him always for satisfaction, we can learn to be satisfied with the Living Water that quenches the thirst and the Bread of Life that satisfies our deepest hunger.

Monday, February 25, 2019

"I've Had Enough!"




by Marsha

People won't have time for you if you are always angry or complaining. ~ Stephen Hawking

Discontent, blaming, complaining, pity cannot serve as a foundation for a good future, no matter how much effort you make.~ Eckhart Tolle


Complaining…we all do it, and we don’t see it as a serious problem.  It’s so common that even people in the non-Christian world (as in the quotes above) recognize that it’s not the best way to live your life.  Of course, the reason non-Christians would advise against complaining are based on the fact that it impacts YOU negatively, not because it violates any moral code.  

Complaining is so ubiquitous that many of us have rationalized that it is actually a sign of how aware we are of injustice or evil in the world. If only the government wouldn’t do such and such.  If only my boss didn’t treat me the way he/she does.  If only those other drivers wouldn’t act that way. If only God would remove this person (or this temptation) from my life, and on and on.  Is complaining just a minor personality flaw that only impacts me negatively?  Surely that’s not a sin that God has much of a problem with, is it?  

It might surprise you to know that many verses in the Bible are devoted to the topic of grumbling and complaining.  God calls it to our attention quite early in the Bible, as early as the second book of the Old Testament, Exodus.  

No sooner had Moses delivered the Israelites from their captivity in Egypt than they began to complain.  They complained when there wasn’t water.  They complained when they didn’t know where they would find food.  They complained when they were tired of manna and wanted to enjoy the variety of food that they had in Egypt.  They complained when they didn’t get meat to eat. In fact, there are ten different episodes in Exodus where the people grumbled against God for what He had provided for them…and what they felt He wasn’t providing for them.

It’s easy for us to think that we wouldn’t have done the very same thing; that we would have been thankful for all that God had done for us. We believe that our grumbling and complaining is much more justified…or is it?  When we don’t take the time to reflect on all the blessings God has given us, we’re marching down the same road they did.  If we keep going that direction, we will also end up in a wilderness experience.  

If you are in a bleak wilderness today, or if you have realized that you’re lacking in thankfulness but overflowing with grumbling, it might be time to take an inventory of what God has done for you, and not just lately.  

Start with the things that you take for granted most days. We live in a country where knowledge about who Jesus is and how He can become our Savior is easy to find, and we are free to worship Him openly.  Few of us have gone hungry or been lacking a roof over our head.  List as many things as you can think of that illustrate that God loves you and is concerned for your welfare.  

Next, compare that list with whatever it is that is causing you to grumble and complain.  Considering all that God has already done for you, do you really think He doesn’t love you, that He doesn’t see you, or that He doesn’t care?  Probably many of the things on your blessing list you never even thought to pray for, yet God provided them for you.  

Complaining is bad for us, but not because it will alienate us from our friends.  The harm that complaining does is alienate us from fellowship with our Heavenly Father.  We can’t have peace of heart and fulfillment in life unless we are connected to Jesus with a spirit of gratitude.  

Jesus, we ask your forgiveness for our attitude of grumbling and complaining. Help us remember your goodness and your blessings to us, and spend more time praising you than bemoaning our difficulties.  Thank you most of all for giving us eternal life and forgiveness of sin.  In Your holy name, Amen.